| | I like to share with your guys how I am not depressed where 80 % of the female 70yrs old above depressed and shows in psychosomatic symptoms and suffers, it is in my observation only. The cause is the husband. The young generation, [40years or younger] does not have that problems, because the female express the feelings, each time someone step on your toe and causing pain. The older generation said no matter how it hurt, keep quiet is the right thing to do. Bull, when hurt getting deeper and deeper, it turn into anger, then anger that was not expressed suddenly turn into depression. When the Jesus see the wrong, he was angry and turn the table up side down. We are not 100% spiritual, and has feelings that need to take care with love. When somebody attack, say simply 'I do not appreciate the you treat me, or I do not like the tune of your voice etc...I believe that The God give us the tool self defense mechanism that we can be safe. I prefer to be honest with my feeling and be healthy than good Christian and hypocrite, later physically sick. I am healthy, feeling good most of the time, and I learned to express my anger more Christian way, and still try. The key I think is when your brain and your heart is harmonious, it is the state of mind in peace, sleep good, and healthy, think good , try see the world good part, disregard the other part. | |